I had a crush on my TA and we became friends, but one night I got really drunk and I told him I didn’t want to have sex because I didn’t want to lose my virginity yet. But he kept forcing shots down my throat and took a few himself, so I couldn’t say he was sober and that it was rape. I was so drunk it didn’t register. I only remember a few moments of that night; but I remember saying no beforehand, being so drunk I couldn’t function (let alone give my consent) and asking him to stop when I was semi-coherent.  He told me the morning after that I’d told him yes (which I don’t remember). It took months for me to realize that I was in no position to say yes, if I even did, and that my telling him no when I was sober should’ve been enough.

-Anonymous